A newbie sub’s comprehensive guide to owning your deepest desires and crafting the space to fulfill them.

Class is in session. And I’m blowing the dust off the leather-bound annals of kink to bring you exactly what you need to know. Our mission? Cracking the code on what you want, staying safe on the search for it, and discovering yourself in the story of your own wildest fantasies.

Diving into your kinks is a brave and empowering decision that will enrich your life with so much more than the euphoria of an over-the-knee spanking or the joy of hearing the specific dirty talk you’ve always craved. No matter what your kinks and fantasies may be, the safety structures of BDSM hold space for everyone to become whole; with their sexuality, their intuition, and their power.

Because healthy submission blossoms from the truth that you cannot give away power you don’t have.

So let’s build that inner well of power together.

And along the way you’ll discover authentic connection, build confidence, and heal your ability to advocate for your boundaries in and out of the bedroom.

Oh yeah and have that filthy taboo hot sex you’ve been dreaming about.

So you think you’re a sub — now what?

The traditional pathways our sex-negative culture offers for seeking out pleasure can feel narrow and stifling. If we receive any sex education at all it is often heteronormative and rooted in shame.

If you, like me, took sex ed in a high school gym, they probably didn’t cover how to cut out the bullshit on dating apps, how to negotiate a BDSM scene, or how to become an empowered sub.

So when we arrive to kink, we’re opening a blank page on our sexualities. And that can be daunting. Especially when you’re trying to navigate the BDSM world, shrouded in mystery and full of obscure terminology as it is.

Well, don’t worry teacher’s pets, I’m here to help you fill that blank page with color-coded notes and very inappropriate doodles.

In this landscape of new possibilities, I’ve experienced firsthand how quickly dazzling can become dizzying. Suddenly you find yourself wishing Webster’s had a BDSM section or that you could buy “Getting Dominated for Dummies” at your local bookstore.

Perhaps the resources you can find are shrouded in a Dom-centric cloud of confusion and tired BDSM stereotypes. At best you don’t know where to begin and at worst you’re running for the hills.

On top of the threatening complexity, sub desire is often misrepresented in those stereotypes. 

But not anymore.

Here, subs are centered. Our pleasure is validated. And we leave behind tired assumptions about who a sub is or isn’t.

I’m not trying to craft you into a “perfect sub.”

I’m here to help you become the you-est you. And give you a library of tools and ideas I wish I’d had at the outset of my own submission journey.

You may have arrived here wondering how submission can be empowering, healthy and joyful? Isn’t the submission of power inherently degrading?

We live in a society that devalues vulnerability, and misunderstands consensual power exchange as weakness.

But I’m here to tell you that embracing your desires is about to make you feel more powerful than you’ve ever felt. Because a good sub is not a mute, obedient blank canvas.

An empowered sub knows how to listen to their inner voice, how to make that voice heard, and can get off along the way.

So come copy my notes from years of lifestyle submission, and start crafting your own submissive story.

I’m here to be your fairy submother, cheerleader, and experienced guide through your first steps to submissive self-actualization. I constructed this course to include everything I wish I had known when I began my kink journey. These lessons will help keep you safe, informed, and fulfilled, ensuring you know what you want and how to get it.

This is day one of making all of your dirty dreams come true.

But what if I’m not a total newbie?

Even if you’ve been out there and seen the BDSM world for yourself, you may have been cobbling your submission practice together from Dom-centric sources.

This guide was inspired by the questions I’m asked every day by thousands of subs around the world, many of whom have been practicing for years. Because the journey to becoming a Better Bottom takes a lot of soft skills that can be hard to learn from a standard workshop.

That’s where this course comes in. To create a submissive-focused space to allow you to grow into your highest potential.

Here, we’ll take about best practices in vetting, negotiating, and actually submitting in a scene. And beyond that, we’ll devote a whole chapter to solo submission and centering your submissive identity on your relationship with yourself, rather than waiting for a Dom to come along and unlock it for you.

The Lesson Plan

Sub Survival Guide includes 14 homework assignments, a submissive meditation, a BDSM Dictionary, a comprehensive list of kinks and 5 video chapters with dozens of easy to follow lessons around trusting yourself, leveraging BDSM structures to protect your joy, finding knowledgeable Dom/mes and much more.

Fulfilling Your Fantasies is An Act of Generosity

Not just for yourself but for your partners and your community. BDSM is at its heart about dismantling limiting beliefs that keep you from a pleasurable life. By embracing your kinks you get a ticket to healthy, satisfying connections that help you grow into your happiest, most fulfilled self. And happy, shame-free people make the world a better place (not to mention, have way more fun along the way.)

Who am I?

I’m Lina Dune, a 24/7 sub and D/s relationship advice writer. But once upon a time, I was a D/s newbie. Back when I was starting my dynamic with my Dom, there were no resources out there that spoke to me. It was all old or written by and for Doms, or just presented in such an unattractive way it was impossible to take in. But beyond that, sure, a website could tell me all about high protocol, but no matter where I turned, I couldn’t seem to get any practical information about how this stuff makes people feel. 

So that’s why I created this space. This cozy, inviting space for you to let your shoulders down and take a deep breath. Whether you’re a lifelong kinkster or a newbie, your kinks are valid here and even more so, they’re fucking awesome.

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